Wednesday, 16 April 2014

Guest Blogger #2 - 2nd Baby Hindsight ...

I'd like to welcome my second guest blogger of the week, Naomi. I have a feeling that Naomi's journey is one that many are going to relate to. It's a lovely honest post. Well worth a read.

So I returned to work a few weeks back and have been asked so many times since returning “the last one?” “are you going to have more?” and I find it hard to answer either way. I know I don’t want any more children but, I do want to do it again. Let me explain………………
I have two gorgeous children Orson who is 4 and Emie who is 10 months and how very different their first few months in life have been. I had amazing home water births with both of them but that is pretty much where the similarities end. The transition from non-parent to parent was a really hard one for me, all through the pregnancy I got told how I would be a natural, how with my organisation skills our child would be sleeping through the night, blah blah blah…….. It didn’t come naturally at all! I was in a lot of pain following his birth, it was the middle of winter, breast feeding was not going to plan, he was crying all the time I was crying all the time, Jamie didn’t know what to do and my baby wasn’t doing what the book said. We were all exhausted I continued my degree at university after Orson was 6 weeks old and I got through each day by the skin of my teeth hanging on for the elusive 3 months old when he would start sleeping through like everyone said.. Well that date came and went and still sleep was but a distant memory we all plodded on doing what the book said, and the health visitors, and the family, and the sleep therapist and no amount of crying it out, being hard, learning to self soothe was doing any of us any good.
I went back to work when Orson was 10 months and tried to continue a career and be a mum, and after about a year we started to just accept what was. The books were left ignored, appointments were missed and we started to be OK. Its true you do start to get used to less sleep it didn’t stop me being angry about being tired a lot of the time when Orson still wasn’t sleeping when all my friends little ones were. They all had the same advice “leave him to cry and he will go to sleep”. I just couldn’t do it! I didn’t bring him into my bed for fear of the shame of having to tell everyone that we were doing the worst thing imaginable letting our baby sleep in our bed but, we did go to him and Jamie and I took four hour shifts every night. I got promoted at work and went back to full time hours, and we clung on to the one thing that wasn’t lacking …… love!
Finally at three years old Orson slept through the night for 3 nights on the trot we felt amazing and we decided it was time for another baby…………… go on laugh………
Now, fast forward 9 months Emie has arrived with us, a faster delivery, a smaller baby, summer and acceptance are already with us. We are ready for no sleep and Orson is still waking almost every night at least once, just to check in more than anything so we are in a new rhythm. Breast feeding hasn’t gone to plan again, but this time I’m ok with it. We move to formula and embrace the fact that Orson can help feed his sister and feel involved and we move on quickly leaving dreams of breastfeeding forever behind us. Jamie and I are already taking shifts having her sleep on our chest downstairs so the other can catch z’s and attend to Orson if he wakes. We cuddle her when she needs it, feed her when she asks for it and just enjoy it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still hard, and what I wouldn’t do for a hint of routine or any idea what might come next but, this time we are doing it on our terms. We are BRAVER! We are telling people how we are parenting. We are not ashamed when we tell our family and friends that Emie sleeps in our bed and from time to time Orson joins us too. I don’t care how my friends look at me when I throw Emie or Orson on my back and wrap them as close to me as my own skin and I laugh with them when we talk about how I have turned into an earth mother or a hippy. And, we accept the eye rolls of our parents and the rods for our backs that we are creating as “times have changed” we tell them, “how do you think we parented as cave people” and are parents go along with our new age ways. And all of these reasoning’s and explanations become justified and obvious to everyone when Orson interrupts his play time just to turn to anyone in the room to tell them how much he loves them (at the moment it’s all the way to the moon when its day time) or, when like a hippy Emie is wrapped against my back snoring her head off with the utter face of contentment so let’s be honest, who can really argue with that?
But what I can’t change is that we didn’t feel this way with Orson and we felt like we were doing it wrong. I want to go back and tell Jamie and I that we are doing great and to not be ashamed. To just do it our way and stop worrying about what everyone else is telling us. I know I can’t and what makes it OK is that I know we were just learning, finding our way into the confusing and overwhelming world of parenthood and, Orson is the most loving, sensitive happiest little boy we could have asked for so really what did we do wrong? Nothing! But still I feel like I want to start again so here you see my dilemma and I am sure you can agree that no-one at work really wants to hear that long explanation, I think they are looking for more of a polite “yes/no” answer.
So what’s the moral to my story well there isn’t one so I will end it with a message. To all the parents out there, on those days when you doubt yourself I mean really question whether you are fit to be a parent as your parents are telling you about “back in their day”, your friends are pouring out advise you don’t want to hear, and you have made yourself 3 cups of tea that have gone cold whilst still in your pyjamas at 2 in the afternoon, genuinely from me to you:
 “High 5” you made it through the night! And secondly, you are an amazing parent, your child(ren) don’t care that your still in your pjs and you haven’t brushed your teeth, they love you know matter what and hey, tonight you might get some sleep, or tomorrow you might make it to the supermarket, or hoover or any of the things you meant to do today.. The people spouting advise genuinely want to help you so try not to take it to heart and, be proud in your choices they are right for you and yours whatever they are. We are all on our very own journey so own it!

Tuesday, 15 April 2014

Guest Blogger Post #1 - 'A day in the life of.....'

I'm so excited to introduce you to my first Guest Blogger, Kate. I'm so glad she offered to write  post for Moms The Word 2012. So, let's find out what she has to tell us.

My names Kate I'm a busy mum of 4. My boys are 15, 10 and 27 months.
My daughter is 11 months. I'm also a Nurse in a busy day surgery unit. Life is hectic.
Today's my day off (I work 3). In all honesty, work is an easy run compared to being at home with the kids! Here's a rundown of my typical day. 
My day started at 05.50 when Isla woke for her morning feed.

Why is it that when the clocks spring forward the kids regress an hour? I was sure the 6am wake ups would be 7am with the change but no, it's like it's an inbuilt alarm clock that only silences with milk.
A quick coffee in bed before they boys are up and daddy's home from his night shift.
Another long night shift for my poor husband who it seems is like a passing ship in the night. In he comes 6.30 all blood shot eyes and looking drained. A kiss and 2 minute chat and he's off to bed.
7am - Oh, there's Tom up, I can hear him thundering out of bed, the usual routine. I hear him slump onto his floor, flick a switch and blast away on his guitar before he starts moving for school.
This mornings chosen riff, Metallicas 'enter sandman'. Ironic or coincidence that I'm praying the sandman would share some sleepy dust with my little ones? I can't decide. Then down the stairs he plods, a quick grunt of 'good morning', some toast and he's in the shower. Next up Franky, 27 months he's wild!
Frankys routine is milk, then non -stop action pretty much until bedtime at 7. Today I plan to scour the wall of the crayon drawing he decided to create me yesterday (sigh). So wicked, so energetic but boy he's bags of fun and within seconds he will have the whole house roaring.
Finally my little joe (10), he's always last up. He's the one that always needs peeling from his pillow. There will be no words from Joe until he's sat for at least 15 minutes, and ate his cereal. We know better by now to not engage him any conversation until then. He's just not a morning person, but once he's come around he's a little darling. He busies himself chasing Franky about playing hide 'n' seek, or 'the tickling monster'. He's the sweetest boy with the biggest heart.
By 8am Toms already out to school, by 8.30 the rest of us are dressed and making our way on the school run with Joe.
We're back home by 9, ready for a fun filled day of activities to keep the babies entertained. There will be building blocks, cars, story time, cleaning (the crayon from the wall!), piles of washing/ironing and walking the dog via the park.

The plan is to wear these little ones out. Trouble is this often also wears me out, by the time dinner and dishes are done, baths and feeds, my sleepy heads are all snuggly and tired, soon they'll be in bed. A time to sit, relax, chill with a glass of wine, appreciate the silence and also miss the chaos. Yes, I'm exhausted, my feet ache, my hairs a mess, my clothes are full of baby food, snot and tears. I'm going to savour this cold, crisp glass of Chablis.......
9.30 - I'm woken up by Tom! 'Go to bed Mam, I'll lock up'.
My eldest baby can see I'm tired, he's caring, sweet and very observant!
Good night kids, Daddy's turn tomorrow.

Monday, 14 April 2014

Mumpreneur Mondays #11

Guess what folks? It's that time of the week again. You know the one. The Mumpreneur one. So, Mumpreneur Mondays is here and yes, with it it brings another lovely Mommy with a business. 
Let me introduce you to this weeks Mom. Please meet Toni Sarabadu, Mommy to 2 lovely littlies. Not only is she a little human Mommy, she is also a doggy Mommy. And, a doggy nanny. Yes, that's right this Mommy runs a dog sitting business. 
Toni, tell me a bit about your business:
'I look after doggies when their owners need a much needed holiday and want their best friend looked after with the care and attention they deserve. We take on dogs for the day when their owners do not want them left alone all day, or overnight for short breaks or extended stays when their owners are on their jollies.'

Speaking as a dog owner knowing that there is someone local that loves having dogs is a real assurance. I know, that when I leave our dogs without us. I like to know that the person I leave them with is responsible and loving. Seems to me that Toni really is.
'The business has been running for around 3 years. I decided to start my own dog boarding business as I was made redundant from my position as an IT Manager whilst pregnant and wanted a change of scenery. As my husband and I have a fondness for dogs with 2 of our own, a 9 year old working cocker spaniel called Scooby and an 8 year old dobergirl called Kiki, both rescues, it seemed a good fit with our family as we would not put our own dogs into kennels and thought that there would be commended people out there. Staying with our dogs in our house means that the dogs we look after get lots of love and attention from humans as well as being socialised with our two dogs.'

When speaking to Tony about her business, the one thing that sticks with me as a real positive is that she classes her dog boarding as a 'home from home' service. She makes sure that dogs continue with their home routine just in a different environment. This makes me really happy. You see, our dogs are on a raw food frozen diet and knowing that they could continue with this diet is hugely reassuring.

So, are you dog owners looking for boarding kennels or a dog sitter? Then, look no further:

And, for those of you looking into leaving your dogs with Toni. When booking or enquiring quote 'Moms The Word 2012' and, you will receive a discount. How wonderful is that!

Friday, 11 April 2014

The TMI Tag

This is the too much information tag and I was tagged by my lovely blogging buddy 'The L's Mum'. So, here we go. Here is my tag!

1. What are you wearing?
Fairly old jeans,  fleetwood Mac Tshirt and  brown cardigan. 

2. Ever been in love?
Yes. Oh yes!

3. Ever had a terrible breakup?
Honestly, no not really. I began my relationship with my husband when I was 17. My heart got broke a little while I was in school. But, nothing terrible.

4. How tall are you?
5ft 7

5. How much do you weigh?
Too much. I now weigh 9 stone 9. Before my little boy I was 8 stone 5. Eeek. I'm slowly adapting to my new shape. Kind of.

6. Any tattoos?
Yes. One on the inside of my right wrist of my husband and I in stick man form. My husband has the same on his left wrist. This way when we hold hands, they kiss. I also have the outline of  a moose on my right wrist designed by my friend for my son.

7. Any piercings?
I have my ears pierced but that's it.

8. OTP?
One True Pairing, My husband and I.

9. Favourite show?
I loved the Great British Bake off. I thought it was brilliant. I really enjoyed watching it as I drooled over the cakes.

10. Favourite bands?
Now, I'm fairly eclectic in my music tastes really. But, I m very proud of being  bit of a soulie. I love Northern Soul and enjoy the scene too.

11. Something you miss?
Seeing my best friend, Maria every day. We worked together you see. It was brilliant working with her. I loved it!

12. Favourite song?
My husband wrote me a song once. It's my favorite.

13. How old are you?

14. Zodiac sign?

15. Quality you look for in a partner?
If they can make me laugh I'm theirs!

16. Favourite Quote?
Carpe Diem

17. Favourite actor?
Vicky McClure. Raw talent right there from that girl.

18. Favourite colour?

19. Loud music or soft?
Happy medium?

 20. Where do you go when you’re sad?
Into my own little bubble and I stay there for a few days.

21. How long does it take you to shower?
10 minutes I reckon. Not long.

22. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
Mornings are slow in our house. So, when I decide to get ready, it does not take me too long atall really. 

23. Ever been in a physical fight?
No. However, I did pull a girls hair in primary school.

24. Turn on?
Silver fox, smelling good, not skinny, sense of humor, age, originality, beard

25. Turn off?
Negativity, skinnyness

26. The reason I started blogging?
I used to have a blog before this one called 'The actors Journey'. I loved writing it. But, work dried up and family life began. It made sense to start a  Mommy blog. I loved writing. So, I did.

27. Fears?

28. Last thing that made you cry?
I cried for Peaches Geldof and her family. 

29. Last time you said you loved someone?
When I put my son down for his nap. I kissed his head and told him.

30. Meaning behind your blog name?
I'm not sure really. I guess it's just catchy and fun. 

31. Last book you read?
The Hunger Games.

32. The book you’re currently reading?
'Wonder' by R.J Palacio

33. Last show you watched?
Master chef last night.

34. Last person you talked to?
My sister via text

35. The relationship between you and the person you last texted?
My sister

36. Favourite food?
Indian food. Love it. I love spices and flavour

37. Place you want to visit?
Gurnsey again. This time taking my family.

38. Last place you were?
Church yesterday morning at an Easter party for Montgomery.

39. Do you have a crush?
Yes, on my husband. 

40. Last time you kissed someone?
Before my little boys nap. I popped a kiss on his for-rid.

41. Last time you were insulted?
 1 woman told my son that 'Little boys don't play with prams'. I was insulted. It was not the correct thing to say, nor was it her place to say it.

42. Favourite flavour of sweet?

43. What instruments do you play?
I try to play guitar.

44. Favourite piece of jewellery?
My wedding ring and Pandora leather bracelet off my husband.

 45. Last sport you played?
Football yesterday with Montgomery.

46. Last song you sang?
The theme tune to 'Squigglett' on CBeebies.

47. Favourite chat up line?
Breaking some ice and exclaiming 'Now that we have broken the ice'.

48. Have you ever used it?
Nope, not seriously.

49. Last time you hung out with anyone?
My husband last night and I'm off to see my best friend tomorrow night. 

50. Who should answer these questions next?

Thursday, 10 April 2014

Easter Crafts

We are all for crafting here at Moms The Word HQ. We live getting the paints out and Mini-moose responds well to the mess. He seems to really go for it when he is equipped with a paintbrush in his hand. And, I love to see it. I love to see him enjoying his own creativity and expression. It's lovely to watch him put paint to paper or wax crayon to colouring book. It's a favorite past time of mine, crafting. And, I can just tell it will be for Montgomery he also. He just loves it. Any excuse to craft and get messy, we go with. So, what better excuse than Easter. Yep, Easter time is upon us and there is an awful lot that needs crafting and painting wouldn't you agree? Not to mention all of the Easter eggs and chocolate that needs consuming. But, less of the bad stuff and mote of the good stuff eh? So, crafting. What did we get up to.
We made an Easter Bunny that's ultra fluffy with the world's largest teeth. This Easter bunny is super simple to make. I'll quickly talk you through it.

So, you need:

  • Thick card
  • Cotton wool balls
  • A colouring crayon or felt tip
  • Glue
  • Scissors
  • Googly eyes
  • Then:
  • Draw yourself a rabbit shape on your card.
  • Cut out your rabbit shape.
  • Add the inner ear and toe nails and colour in pink.
  • Then cover the rest of the body in glue.
  • Once covered start pressing the cotton wool balls onto the body.
  • Glue the googly eyes in place.
  • Glue the teeth in place.

Our rabbit here is minus his teeth. Oohps.

We also enjoyed painting a lovely hollow egg that I brought from IKEA. I'm hoping that once dried to fill it with some lovely Easter treats for the little man to open on Easter Sunday. These eggs are great because you can fill them with whatever you want and it does not have to be chocolate. You could do something cool like pop a pair of socks inside or something. Plus, it's really lovely to be able to personalize them like this and allow your littlies to feel like they are really having an input in the special Sunday. I'm sure these IKEA eggs were only 1 pound and are really great for Easter.

And, then to top our crafting hour off we just painted 2 lovely pictures for the Daddio. I say painted picture. But, it was more like painted ourselves. We were covered. I was coveted mainly because Montgomery was coveted and insisted on giving me love and he was covered due to the fact that every 5 minute he wished to show me his hair. Crazy cat.

I'm sure many of you are embracing the Easter crafts currently and getting stuck in. If you are and you fancy sharing your crafts with someone. Fancy sharing them with me? I'm always after new ideas and it would be great to give yours a try. Why not hop over to Moms The Word 2012's Facebook page and share your crafts with myself and my readers.